edition 29/08/17

Lost god son
A close friend made me godmother to her son when he was born 12 years ago.  I have taken
my responsibility very seriously and have made a point to be in his life.  Since then my friend
and her husband have split up, her husband moved to Australia and my god son went with
him.  I have lost touch with his mother.  I wrote to the boy’s father saying I still wanted to be
in my god son’s life, but he said he wants to cut all ties.  What can I do?
Sadly there is nothing you can do until the boy reaches 16, when you could try and get in
touch then via Facebook.  No doubt he will remember you, but four years for a youngster is
a long time.  I imagine this boy will have other things on his mind when you do get in touch,
so don’t expect for there to be any big reunion.  If the father is preventing all contact, I am
afraid you might have to let this go, and try to move on yourself.
I want to say sorry
I am ashamed to say that when I was at school I was unkind to a girl in my class.  I don’t
know why I did it, but it happened.  Now, years later I think about it and am very
remorseful.  The other day I saw this girl in a supermarket and felt I should have said
something, but I was too nervous and the moment passed.  Then I got an invitation to our
school reunion, so I am wondering if I should go and apologise.
If you definitely know this girl is going to the school reunion, then I would go and tell her
you are sorry.  If you are able to contact her beforehand I would do this, as she may not
want to go to the reunion because of her bullying experience.  Try and get in touch with the
organisers and see if you can get in contact with her via that route first.  We all do stupid
things when we are young, and then live to regret it.  You will be doing the right thing.